FRIENDSHIP, PURE and ROMANTIC LOVE

Friendship

Reliable Online Definition

Friend - A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade. A person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty.

friendship - the state of being friends.

Friendly Relationship:
relationship - a state involving mutual dealings between people or parties or countries

companionship, fellowship, society, company - the state of being with someone; "he missed their company"; "he enjoyed the society of his friends"

confidence, trust - a trustful relationship; "he took me into his confidence"; "he betrayed their trust"

Confidence - Trust or faith in a person or thing.

Trust – One in which confidence is placed. To have or place confidence in; or depend on.

OLD FASHIONED FRIENDSHIP

History of the Word Friend

Word History:
A friend is a lover, literally. The relationship between Latin am cus "friend" and am "I love" is clear, as is the relationship between Greek philos "friend" and phile "I love."

In English, though, we have to go back a millennium before we see the verb related to friend. At that time, fr ond, the Old English word for "friend," was simply the present participle of the verb fr on, "to love."

The Germanic root behind this verb is *fr -, which meant "to like, love, be friendly to." Closely linked to these concepts is that of "peace," and in fact Germanic made a noun from this root, *frithu-, meaning exactly that.

Ultimately descended from this noun are the personal names Frederick, "peaceful ruler," and Siegfried, "victory peace." The root also shows up in the name of the Germanic deity Frigg, the goddess of love, who lives on today in the word Friday, "day of Frigg," from an ancient translation of Latin Veneris di s, "day of Venus." ---As per our reliable and best FRIEND the dictionary

I am less familiar with this history I still practice the old fashioned friendship where sex is not invited at all. My belief is that sex could affect the friendly relationship and complicates life. To step from friendship into a loving relationship is a huge risk and a big decision for the ones involved, it is a step where unconditional love falls that makes us confident to establish a long term relationship.

I am one of those persons where intimacy is linked to attachment causing grave emotions and situations. I rather have romping dates, this way I know who is who.

BROADMINDED FRIENDSHIP or FRIENDSHIP WITH BENEFITS

Now this is more the modern “Friendship” I have learned to accept these days. I call it more, “friendship with overtime duties conveniently sided”. I am happy picking up my poncho any time and walking away, I wash my socks when it suits me and I keep my purse to myself, I am still trying to find the meaning of sharing. Oooh how sad…
Maybe one day I am ready to share at the moment I am happy the way my life is.

These days, financially it is the best way to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle by holding to a “friend”. Fortunately I am very independent, this friendship suits me not.

Lack of Self-Esteem, duplicity, enslavement tend to misunderstand friendship. Many times people think that friendship and love, well ‘romantic love’ are the same and many times we see people that they are attached to the lover for the wrong reasons. Eventually they will walk away from each other and their worlds collapse.

Lack of self-esteem blocks them from making friends, true friends. Emotional upbringing makes them dependable seeking for that ‘hand contact’ reassuring them that everything is ok, the world is pinky to them as long that “warm hand” is there but if it is not then their world becomes depressive.

Lust goes with broadminded friendship and it could turn into love as long as the person’s self-esteem is strong to be self. Knowing the freedom to be self and wanting to share with the other person. Knowing they are confident within themselves to fully function on their own as creative individuals.

True Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love. We are in full control of our emotions, when we are ready to share our game we express it with sex therefore, love is action not an emotion.

When we are “in love” as in romantic love, we are so full with the feeling and even from the distance we are capable of filling the other person up with a word, with a graphic smiley, a phone call, a letter. When a person misses a loved one to fall into depression, it only happens because the person lacks the feeling, the feeling is not within the person missing the other.

LUST is just that… PURE Sex… get few drinks and get in the mood and "I do not remember.. it wasn't me" – another post about this topic coming soon.

PURE LOVE or UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

You do not love me anymore you do not write me as you used to,
you do not buy me diamonds anymore,
you do not buy me flowers anymore,
if you love me you would marry me even I don’t love you…

all these are “conditions” to prove love for other person… this type of love carries a measure tape

Love

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

It is just that ‘no conditions’, accepting the person with faults and virtues. This Love is divine, our Creator gifts us with his eternal love, the love of a mother is unconditional for her child.

Even though a person has more faults than virtues, those faults are the essence of his existence and we have no right to force the person to change, we can only guide the person to see if it is convenient to make some changes for the good of the person.

Unconditional love makes us see our faults, it stop us from hurting each other, it makes us take responsibility for our errors, we make the decisions to step into action therefore we take the responsibility for the results.

Unconditional love needs no proof, it needs not display, it feels so warm and the energy to be it makes you wonderful, floating on pink clouds all the time. Everything around you turns up your way when you are full up with unconditional love.

I felt it, but lately I experienced a leak. I must find it and parch it.

Many times we give love to the person who does not want it and it chews our personal energy. It drains us in such a way we need to recharge.

Where there is FRIENDSHIP, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE reigns.

Where there is Love, obstacles melt, opening the way to sharing because love is Bright Light.

AGE IRRELEVANT TO FRIENDSHIP

And back into the Old Fashioned Friendship, where age has no place in deciding who I chose to be friends with.

Through the pass of the years I have built up “true” friendships going back to over 30 years now. These people located all over the world manage to make time to meet me and the rest of the group, but we are from the old school, do modern friends practice this ritual?

People from different ages, backgrounds and status in life, when we meet we look forward our joy to spend that glorious time together by reporting all past’s years happenings, travelling through the memory lane and or sharing future plans. I still attend Christmas parties from jobs I held 30 years ago, the places are non-existing anymore, the people are still there.

Young people from overseas I met online at my early web-beginnings have come to meet me and it was a magnificent exchange, we still keep in contact and amazingly we share a much richer trust. One of the reasons why I keep my domain as that is one of the ways to be located.

People my age have more common interests making it more a social gathering to exchange happy and not so happy times with each other, we are closer to contact.

People in my locality are a mixed age group as well with different views, interests, activities and we all manage to enjoy FRIENDSHIP considering the difference of ages. The FRIENDSHIP is a learning experience for the young ones and for the much older at the same time the fun reigns.

Having a 14 year old coming to tell me “all about her new feelings… oh mum will freak out if she finds out… “ it is sweet as also it is very emotional to have them inviting you for a cuppa to show me some of her masterpieces from art school and giving me hints how to improve my craft… it is a two way road.

A much older in his mid 20s came to find out “how to find out the ‘pattern’ of a person as in unfaithful pattern. The friendship becomes sort of counseling as well as few days ago these young ones were there for me, “dump the ageist” after a past friend manipulated my friendship towards his goals, manipulating my time, my efforts, at periods demanding my skilled support when I faced difficulties to work with him from the distance. My young friends knew how harder I worked to help others and they saw that my efforts were missing appreciation.

Love is there in many ways, we just have to appreciate it and I am blessed to have such a LOVING RAINBOW, I am grateful to all my friendships.