Neither Money or Love make the world go round

Money doesn't make the world go round. Love doesn't either.

It's fashion that causes the planet to spin. That... and pop music.

Didn't you know? Where have you been?

I'd love to tell you this is as close as you are likely to get to hearing a preposterous statement this week. I rather fear, though, that you have heard several already.

The best such announcements are, of course, always made by people who have no idea how ridiculous they sound.

Tolerance is really what makes the world go round.

So is not love, nor money, and not much of musical fashion either but ...

Tolerance aha...! I am tolerant enough to run my truck over the ridiculous and remain with a happy smile sitting on top of the world... :)

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Listening and Talking

If one could only teach the English how to talk and the Iris how to listen, society here would be quite civilized… Oscar Wilde

How to truly listen – actively, positively listen.

Listening is not waiting for the other person to finish so that we can say what we want to say. Listening is not preparing what we want to say while the other is speaking.

Listening is taking a deep breath and clearing ourselves so that we can be receptive to hearing what the other is saying – without interrupting. Listening is letting the words, feelings and intuitions of the other enter into our inner space so that we have the possibility of knowing without words.

No man was ever wise by chance – Seneca

There seems to be a one-to-one positive correlation between wisdom, listening, and humility.

The wisest people are the most humble and skilled listeners. Somehow listening, wisdom and humility seem to form an unstoppable tripod of basics for good living.

• Good listeners have the ability to listen to themselves. They are not selfish or self-centered in their self listening, they are simply attentive. They are attentive to the small stirrings within themselves that allow them to know themselves and be in tune with themselves.

• Good listeners listen to their God, their Higher Power, their Creator or the Universal Wisdom that sustains and informs us all.

• Good listeners listen lovingly to others, finding something of importance in everything that is said.

• They listen to nature, knowing that the utterings of the world around them are older than any of us and need to be heeded if we are to live in balance and harmony.

Then there is talking

When we talk, we have a sacred responsibility for everything that comes out of our mouth. We have an obligation to speak clearly, truthfully, and succinctly so that what we convey has the best possible chance to be understood.

We can be somber, funny, entertaining or serious and we are responsible for our words if we want others to listen to us.

Most of the time I listen and I tend to listen more than what I should causing me a lot of unhappiness as I tend to go out off my way to help out my talker. My restriction should be; "wait until the talker asks you to act", I am too impulsive.

One thing I need to improve is my talking, I let go loose my pent up feelings all at once, take it of leave it otherwise, I practice "sensible talking".

Check out your listening and talking skills…

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"honest" lies become mistakes

He told lies, then he called his lies mistakes and he still calls himself an honest person.
I am sure that where there is honesty there is no room for untruth.
His "mistaken honesty" has destroyed his integrity and career what a way to go, all those invested years building up a clean reputation gone under the drain for what?....
just pure straight
"honest lies"

I lied, but I'm basically honest, says Einfeld
By Anna Patty

MARCUS EINFELD has spoken on camera about his fear of going to jail and begged for forgiveness for lying about his unpaid speeding fine.

While admitting his guilt, the former Federal Court judge tried to defend his integrity as a basically honest man who made a "mistake" by lying.

In an interview recorded before his sentencing on Friday to two years of non-parole custody, the 70-year-old said he was prepared for prison.

"I don't know that anybody … who's never done it before, like me, can be ready for it, but I'm as ready as anybody can be … I've been told you need to have special protection; people don't like judges much, especially judges who've presided over criminal cases," he told the ABC's Four Corners. The program screens tonight.

Breaking a two-year silence, he spoke of remorse and a desire to rebuild his reputation.

"I'm desperately sorry for what I did," he said. "I'm sorry to my family, my elderly mother and my children. I'm sorry to the public at large because they have been my audience over the years.

"I lied. I can't say it any simpler than that. I told a lie, which was a disgraceful thing to do and for which I have been paying ever since. I'm being frank as is humanly possible. I think Australian people are pretty good at forgiving people who come clean."

When the former justice's car was photographed by a speed camera on January 8, 2006, travelling 10kmh above the speed limit, he gave a sworn statement that a friend, Teresa Brennan, was driving, despite his knowledge that she had been dead for three years. "It's probably more shameful than the driving," he said. "She was a wonderful person and for me to use her name is more hurtful than anything else."

Four Corners follows Einfeld in the days leading up to his sentence while he still hoped the testimony of his supporters would persuade the Supreme Court judge, Bruce James, against a jail term.

"They are going to prove that … these offences of mine are out of character, that I'm a person of integrity," he said.

In defending his character, he said: "I don't think I'm the slightest bit dishonest. I just made a mistake."

SMH

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