These modern days are meant to be full of fun and loose ties.
The age of the flower children is gone but their “free love” has remained.
People go out and let their hormones do their thinking and “it is all in fun and in eternal love too … and many other lyrics they might think about their precious fun” but in their enjoyment, do they allow their brains to take responsibility for the fun effects?
There is a time to play, there is time to stop and think “am doing this right?”… “is this for my own good?”… “is this what I want for my life?” “Am I ready to take the responsibility of raising a child?”.. “Can I afford to bring a child to this world in my present circumstances?”
We are humans after all and we are weak, we are weak from 12-25 years of age, after that age we have our heads on our shoulders even when the fireworks are reaching heaven. Whether is a male or female the responsibility falls on both, she has to protect her body and sanity, he has to make sure there are not risks involved and make sure he protects her from unwanted pregnancy as well. After all we are RESPONSIBLE human beings after 18-21 years of age.
I am a pro-abortion where there is a reason to protect the carrier, where there are children abused or raped, no religion should interfere where the life of a child has been compromised by selfish force. The poor needs family planning education and protection of unwanted pregnancies, areas infected with HIV/AIDS need to be protected to avoid spreading the disease.
Pope Benedict XVI made the controversial remarks last week when he travelled to Africa, the worst-hit continent for AIDS saying that “condoms exacerbate the problem of HIV/AIDS, the Pope has publicly distorted scientific evidence to promote Catholic doctrine on this issue," The Lancet said in its editorial. AIDS is a tragedy "that cannot be overcome through the distribution of condoms, which even aggravates the problems," the Pope said aboard his flight to Cameroon.
Then in a country where poverty reigns and physical-human needs must be met, how does the Pope plan to prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS worldwide?
These type of comments from very influential figures are devastating to the health of millions of people, I hope the Vatican retracts the Pope’s comments otherwise let’s sit and wait for the worse to come over us.
Few weeks ago little Alfie Patten from UK, just 13 years old made news after the classical “only once” his girlfriend fell pregnant and now they are the happy parents of a gorgeous bouncing little bab…
Little Alfie stood tall at his young age taking responsibility for his actions, I was so proud of him for stepping forward, a reaction hard to be seen on older males. Although in his heart he wants to be the daddy of the new baby, fortunately the tests are protecting him and the tests have shown he is not the daddy of little Maisie.
Now the question for the new mum; “who’s the daddy” of the baby? That is her problem and I hope the support from her parents will take her to a safer platform.
At this stage Alfie has been protected by nature and in the future he will be thankful for the DNA results as he is free to be whoever he wants to be when the time arrives. He has shown a high degree of responsibility at this young age, he might develop that responsibility by being near Maisie while she grows up and who knows, maybe become her dad.
Little Maisie has lots of love right now and she is a blessed little girl. Her mum also took her stand by allowing her baby a chance in this life. Both Alfie and Chantelle have defended their young love against all odds, I wish them well.
If older people could afford to sit and think the best solution to protect "their eternal love" there would be more happiness around.
Friday, March 27, 2009
Who’s your daddy
wanting more
Time to look after number 1... let go, be freeThere is more to you than meets the eye.
Many times what catches my eyes' and/or my heart's attention is deceiving.
There is more to life than an unsatisfactory situation that you seem to be caught up in.
The feeling of attachment is so strong that letting go hurts, once mind is made up, loosing grip to attachment becomes a breeze.
There is more hope, more joy and more love in your heart than you could ever experience if you dedicated the whole of the rest of your life to pursuing this and nothing else.
On my way to it now, and it is a great joyful adventure getting there.
Why then, when your life could be full of so much more, are you seemingly willing to settle for so much less?
I WANT MORE, and I always want MORE and MORE... why settle for little when I own the world?
Continue read...wanting more...
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Who...
The feeling of floating made me a giant,owning the whole world,
everything around me became so small and
easy to control from where I was,
life felt vibrant, light, and powerful to own it all.
I'm still in charge of my life while I am 'floating'.
Jeglyla swapped skydiving for a more relaxing environment.
Photo: Jessica Jose
Q. Who are you?
A. I'm Lyla, Jeg, and whoever I love being at any time, I AM a human being
Q. What makes you 'you'?
A. My sweet, loving, caring, passionate, grumpy, energetic essence
Q. Are you who you used to be?
A. Nope, I left the old me 9 years ago to be exact, now I am the New Me Me Me
Q. Are you who you will be one day?
A. Not yet, maybe one day I will be perfectly Me
Q. We assume that you must be 'who you are right now', but wait.
A. Correct, I am now more loving, caring, straight-forward, and mean at times, I accept myself as I am with all my faults and virtues, a person who loves being happy no matter what.
Q. What if you are not feeling yourself at the moment?
A. Then I am also Mean Me, I simply must accept my less happy me as it is part of my being, I have to carry my little less-happy self at the moment, that is if I were not feeling myself.
The factors that go to make up our sense of identity are complex, subtle, yet crucial.
You are learning a lot about yourself now.
One of the things you are (or should be) learning, is that you are worth more happiness than you have lately experienced.
When I am less happy is when I give too much of myself to others then I find that my love is less appreciated, as soon as I find out where I am standing then it is very easy to bring back myself into a happy mood.
Then, I realise that I am more important than anything else around me... By being happy my life, my health, my spirit my environment float and I love that floating feeling as everything runs soooo smoothly when I am floating..
Knowing Who I AM helps to know What I WANT discarding the unwanted, looking forward to see that which I want to see only, looking forward to BE, that part of me that makes me happy or happier or the happiest, appreciating all the tiny gifts life offers me.
Many times is not the hilarious happy, but a pleasant peaceful happiness deep inside me makes me float through out my day.
I'm back...
Continue read...Who......
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
March 24 – this day today
1379 - The Gelderse war ended.
1545 - German Parliament opened in Worms.
1550 - France and England signed the Peace of Boulogne.
1629 - The first game law was passed in the American colonies, by Virginia.
1664 - A charter to colonize Rhode Island was granted to Roger Williams in London.
1720 - In Paris, banking houses closed due to financial crisis.
1765 - Britain passed the Quartering Act that required the American colonies to house 10,000 British troops in public and private buildings.
1792 - Benjamin West became the first American artist to be selected president of the Royal Academy of London.
1828 - The Philadelphia & Columbia Railway was authorized as the first state owned railway.
1832 - Mormon Joseph Smith was beaten, tarred and feathered in Ohio.
1837 - Canada gave blacks the right to vote
1848 - A state of siege was proclaimed in Amsterdam.
1868 - Metropolitan Life Insurance Company was formed.
1878 - The British frigate Eurydice sank killing 300.
1880 - The first "hail insurance company" was incorporated in Connecticut. It was known as Tobacco Growers' Mutual Insurance Company.
1882 - In Berlin, German scientist Robert Koch announced the discovery of the tuberculosis germ (bacillus).
1883 - The first telephone call between New York and Chicago took place.
1898 - The first automobile was sold.
1900 - Mayor Van Wyck of New York broke the ground for the New York subway tunnel that would link Manhattan and Brooklyn.
1900 - In New Jersey, the Carnegie Steel Corporation was formed.
1904 - Vice Adm. Tojo sank seven Russian ships as the Japanese strengthened their blockade of Port Arthur.
1905 - In Crete, a group led by Eleutherios Venizelos claimed independence from Turkey.
1906 - In Mexico, the Tehuantepec Istmian Railroad opened as a rival to the Panama Canal.
1906 - The "Census of the British Empire" revealed that England ruled 1/5 of the world.
1911 - In Denmark, penal code reform abolished corporal punishment.
1920 - The first U.S. coast guard air station was established at Morehead City, NC.
1924 - Greece became a republic.
1927 - Chinese Communists seized Nanking and break with Chiang Kai-shek over the Nationalist goals.
1932 - Belle Baker hosted a radio variety show from a moving train. It was the first radio broadcast from a train.
1934 - U.S. President Roosevelt signed a bill granting future independence to the Philippines.
1938 - The U.S. asked that all powers help refugees fleeing from the Nazis.
1944 - In Rome, The Gestapo rounded up innocent Italians and shot them to death in response to a bomb attack that killed 32 German policemen. Over 300 civilians were executed.
1946 - The Soviet Union announced that it was withdrawing its troops from Iran.
1947 - The U.S. Congress proposed the limitation of the presidency to two terms.
1951 – JEG was born in South America, a bouncing cheeky little baby that grew up to be a rebel with and without cause.
1954 - Britain opened trade talks with Hungary.
1955 - Tennessee Williams' play "Cat on a Hot Tin Roof" debuted on Broadway.
1955 - The first oil drill seagoing rig was put into service.
1960 - A U.S. appeals court ruled that the novel, "Lady Chatterly's Lover", was not obscene and could be sent through the mail.
1972 - Great Britain imposed direct rule over Northern Ireland.
1976 - The president of Argentina, Isabel Peron, was deposed by her country's military.
1980 - In San Salvador, Archbishop Oscar Arnulfo Romero was shot to death by gunmen as he celebrated Mass.
1981 - "Nightline" with Ted Koppel premiered.
1985 - Thousands demonstrated in Madrid against the NATO presence in Spain.
1988 - Former national security aides Oliver L. North and John M. Poindexter and businessmen Richard V. Secord and Albert Hakim pleaded innocent to Iran-Contra charges.
1989 - The Exxon Valdez spilled 240,000 barrels (11 million gallons) of oil in Alaska's Prince William Sound after it ran aground.
1989 - The U.S. decided to send humanitarian aid to the Contras.
1990 - Indian troops left Sri Lanka.
1991 - The African nation of Benin held its first presidential elections in about 30 years.
1993 - In Israel, Ezer Weizman, an advocate of peace with neighboring Arab nations, was elected President.
1995 - Russian forces surrounded Achkoi-Martan. It was one of the few remaining strongholds of rebels in Chechenia.
1995 - The U.S. House of Representatives passed a welfare reform package that made the most changes in social programs since the New Deal.
1997 - The Australian parliament overturned the world's first and only euthanasia law.
1998 - In Jonesboro, AR, two young boys open fire at students from woods near a school. Four students and a teacher were killed and 10 others were injured. The two boys were 11 and 13 years old cousins.
1998 - A former FBI agent said papers found in James Earl Ray's car supports a conspiracy theory in the assassination of Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.
1999 - In Kenya, at least 31 people were killed when a passenger train derailed. Hundreds were injured.
1999 - NATO launched air strikes against Yugoslavia (Serbia, Montenegro, Kosovo and Vojvodina). The attacks marked the first time in its 50-year history that NATO attacked a sovereign country. The bombings were in response to Serbia's refusal to sign a peace treaty with ethnic Albanians who were seeking independence for the province of Kosovo.
1999 - The 7-mile tunnel under Mont Blanc in France was an inferno after a truck carrying flour and margarine caught on fire. At least 30 people were killed.
2002 - Thieves stole five 17th century paintings from the Frans Hals Museum in the Dutch city of Haarlem. The paintings were worth about $2.6 million. The paintings were works by Jan Steen, Cornelis Bega, Adriaan van Ostade and Cornelis Dusart.
2005 - The government of Kyrgyzstan collapsed after opposition protesters took over President Askar Akayev's presidential compound and government offices.
2005 - Sandra Bullock received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.
2006 - In Spain, the Basque separatist group ETA announced a permanent cease-fire.
Monday, March 23, 2009
Neither Money or Love make the world go round
Money doesn't make the world go round. Love doesn't either.
It's fashion that causes the planet to spin. That... and pop music.
Didn't you know? Where have you been?
I'd love to tell you this is as close as you are likely to get to hearing a preposterous statement this week. I rather fear, though, that you have heard several already.
The best such announcements are, of course, always made by people who have no idea how ridiculous they sound.
Tolerance is really what makes the world go round.
So is not love, nor money, and not much of musical fashion either but ...
Tolerance aha...! I am tolerant enough to run my truck over the ridiculous and remain with a happy smile sitting on top of the world... :)
Are you paying me attention?
Listening and Talking
How to truly listen – actively, positively listen.
Listening is not waiting for the other person to finish so that we can say what we want to say. Listening is not preparing what we want to say while the other is speaking.
Listening is taking a deep breath and clearing ourselves so that we can be receptive to hearing what the other is saying – without interrupting. Listening is letting the words, feelings and intuitions of the other enter into our inner space so that we have the possibility of knowing without words.
There seems to be a one-to-one positive correlation between wisdom, listening, and humility.
The wisest people are the most humble and skilled listeners. Somehow listening, wisdom and humility seem to form an unstoppable tripod of basics for good living.
• Good listeners have the ability to listen to themselves. They are not selfish or self-centered in their self listening, they are simply attentive. They are attentive to the small stirrings within themselves that allow them to know themselves and be in tune with themselves.
• Good listeners listen to their God, their Higher Power, their Creator or the Universal Wisdom that sustains and informs us all.
• Good listeners listen lovingly to others, finding something of importance in everything that is said.
• They listen to nature, knowing that the utterings of the world around them are older than any of us and need to be heeded if we are to live in balance and harmony.
Then there is talking
When we talk, we have a sacred responsibility for everything that comes out of our mouth. We have an obligation to speak clearly, truthfully, and succinctly so that what we convey has the best possible chance to be understood.
We can be somber, funny, entertaining or serious and we are responsible for our words if we want others to listen to us.
Most of the time I listen and I tend to listen more than what I should causing me a lot of unhappiness as I tend to go out off my way to help out my talker. My restriction should be; "wait until the talker asks you to act", I am too impulsive.
One thing I need to improve is my talking, I let go loose my pent up feelings all at once, take it of leave it otherwise, I practice "sensible talking".
Check out your listening and talking skills…
"honest" lies become mistakes
I am sure that where there is honesty there is no room for untruth.
His "mistaken honesty" has destroyed his integrity and career what a way to go, all those invested years building up a clean reputation gone under the drain for what?....
just pure straight
"honest lies"
I lied, but I'm basically honest, says Einfeld
By Anna Patty
MARCUS EINFELD has spoken on camera about his fear of going to jail and begged for forgiveness for lying about his unpaid speeding fine.
While admitting his guilt, the former Federal Court judge tried to defend his integrity as a basically honest man who made a "mistake" by lying.
In an interview recorded before his sentencing on Friday to two years of non-parole custody, the 70-year-old said he was prepared for prison.
"I don't know that anybody … who's never done it before, like me, can be ready for it, but I'm as ready as anybody can be … I've been told you need to have special protection; people don't like judges much, especially judges who've presided over criminal cases," he told the ABC's Four Corners. The program screens tonight.
Breaking a two-year silence, he spoke of remorse and a desire to rebuild his reputation.
"I'm desperately sorry for what I did," he said. "I'm sorry to my family, my elderly mother and my children. I'm sorry to the public at large because they have been my audience over the years.
"I lied. I can't say it any simpler than that. I told a lie, which was a disgraceful thing to do and for which I have been paying ever since. I'm being frank as is humanly possible. I think Australian people are pretty good at forgiving people who come clean."
When the former justice's car was photographed by a speed camera on January 8, 2006, travelling 10kmh above the speed limit, he gave a sworn statement that a friend, Teresa Brennan, was driving, despite his knowledge that she had been dead for three years. "It's probably more shameful than the driving," he said. "She was a wonderful person and for me to use her name is more hurtful than anything else."
Four Corners follows Einfeld in the days leading up to his sentence while he still hoped the testimony of his supporters would persuade the Supreme Court judge, Bruce James, against a jail term.
"They are going to prove that … these offences of mine are out of character, that I'm a person of integrity," he said.
In defending his character, he said: "I don't think I'm the slightest bit dishonest. I just made a mistake."
SMH
Continue read..."honest" lies become mistakes...
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Indecisiveness
It does not matter what path you take,
but it does matter if the path you are taking
is something that you are believing is appropriate.
Nothing is more damaging to you than
to do something that you believe is wrong.
So which way shall I go?
the good or the bad?
both look appealing so far...
Friday, March 20, 2009
Thinking of You once more
"From his last stop before Freedom
he wishes me Happy Birthday"
Even the rich have to go through a batch of less luck at any time in their lives. I was fortunate to go through my lesser time after I reached half century... and well kept.
One day you think you are the owner of the world, I had huge plans for the next 3-5 years. Work-wise I had positioned myself at a top level where I could choose at pleasure. I simply needed the time to complete some of my dreams but overnight I went unwell.
It happened at a board meeting, I came out not knowing who I was. I took a long time to bring my body to respond to 45% normality, and since them I have been trying to heal back to normality, I still need to go about 5% and I will be PERFECT as usual.
During the convalescing period I had to work my mind and my spirit, well I tell you that my spirit needed more attention than my body. I had to start finding my inner-child and when I found it, I had to wake up quickly as my inner-child loved shopping and it loved to be in charge of the credit card too… but as I did not want to upset it and run away I went along… those were the days until I learned I was the parent and my inner-child had to do as I instructed.
I came across the right people, at the right time and places and one lent me a book by Jerry Jampolsky “change your mind change your life" (http://www.jerryjampolskyanddianecirincione.com/)
For a while I followed the New Age crystal healing, herbs, aromatherapy and the many other pleasant and relaxing therapies. I loved being around spiritual people, I felt good but during the overnight period I lost all my peaceful environment and I was desperate to find it…
Jerry in his book talked about love… loving people… aaaaah whaaaat… he had to be crazy, but I kept reading the book as I had nothing else to do… at a point he mentioned to offer love to prisoners. But Jerry was not the only author I read that mentioned the same practice, Wayne Dyer brings it out in few of his books (I read most of his books – I love that man)… so prisoners… hmmm - visiting… hmmm.. are they kidding? The idea I grew up about someone in prison was “stay away from prisoners, bad people, they will kill you..” but that is not the reality, as now I know there are many in prisons for crimes committed by others. Prisoners are just people who loose their freedom to move around.
FEAR, Mr Fear was ruling my life and visiting a prisoner was overruled, ok it had to be another way and the road was shown to me. I found Foreign Prisoners run by Kate Danes (www.foreignprisoners.com/ ), Kate still has a long list of prisoners looking for penpals and that is how I started. I also have prisoners from poor countries hoping for help from foreign penpals and donors at Burmese Prisoners Abroad (burmesepa.blogspot.com) (feel free to visit the blog please).
I picked one name from Kate's list, he is from Holland, Frank was in Japan for trafficking and given 14 years at the age of 26 I think… it was a tip toeing experience for me, I had not idea what was going to happen after I wrote a postcard. He couldn't kill me through a letter but the fear was there. Frank is the friendliest happy guy, he speaks perfect English and his world knowledge is very advanced. He knows more about Australian history than I do, well that is because the Vikings came here hehehe.
Frank introduced me to Gary from UK also doing trafficking experience in Japan. They were separated and sent to different prisons. Both of them are now at home completing their sentence times.
Meanwhile the friendship has grown stronger. Writing to prisoners needs a bit of skill and I had none by then. It is very emotional to read their living experiences as it is wanting to send some comforting words to lift their spirits, but as Jerry and Wayne said, when we send love we receive love and love guided me. I am talking about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
Frank is a spiritual man while Gary is more the easy going relaxed musician and both were influential in my personal and spiritual healing.
With Gary now in UK, everything is going as planned, because from this end I had to help him continue dreaming and in a way that monthly letter was some sort of a tender pillow.
For me it became a distant-close relationship at the end, Gary has approximately 5 months to complete his time and go on parole, today I received my first Birthday Card and is coming from Gary.
He is excited that he is so close to freedom and he has gone into open prison, he will be allowed to go abroad on holidays whilst on parole and he is looking forward that time. That was a beautiful gift I received as well as he is still holding to his dreams…
Will I ever meet them? Who knows, maybe only if we want to meet then the opportunity might present itself, then it would be nice to sit and enjoy the friendship the 3 of us have built under very restricted circumstances.
Meanwhile geography has become a pigment of our imagination we are in contact part of our days or overnight.
I thank you Gary for remembering me on my Special Day.
Continue read...Thinking of You once more...
Red Bull
Been to the grand prix lately? I attended the formula1 in 1992, the last race held in Adelaide, my first time in the city, it was a glorious time.
Being my first time to a car racing event I expected action flashing moving cars with the continuously boom rooom rooom. At times it was boring as most of the cars went in group and it took long minutes before they made the full circle to be able to see them again, at other times it was breath taken adrenaline pumping with each turn and take over they offered us, amazing experience.
I was fascinated by Ayrton Senna, his driving was so neat whenever he approached the sharp corners his driving was so smooth making the rounds nice and clean, it felt like he was caressing his girl, so gentle. Nigel Mansell was in his best but his curves were very cringing. Even though being my first experience I tried to enjoy it as much as possible. And it went for 3 days but I endured the other two days shopping in Adelaide.
Sadly Ayrton left the dearly beloved few years back and Nigel retired. Now I will be focusing on the current crews… I hope you enjoy the speeding this year.
Now Moe, why do you think I like Red Bull?
After 1992 I followed the races every now and then, in the past 9 years I have been away from the TV but today my eye caught Mark Webber. I hope Mark makes a nice come back on 29th, all the best to him.
RED BULL time now… no wonder some gals in SP love red bull drinks, the high adrenaline they get from their sips I wonder who are they looking at…? Tuh tuh tuh naughty naughty.
Photo: tall dark and handsome; MarkWebber and SebastianVettel.
Taliban took another boy from us
The casket of Australian Corp. Mathew Hopkins arrived this week and right after the news Sergeant Brett Till, 21yso was killed in Afghanistan, our second within a week, so far we have 10 soldiers killed within the past year and half. What are we doing there? What sort of business have we got there?
Continue read...Taliban took another boy from us...Thursday, March 19, 2009
Expectations
Being a simple person, enjoying; the simple, raw, beautiful things in life it means I am a rebellious kind of person, I expect a lot of the good stuff…
If I buy a salad sandwich I expect fresh salad in it opposite to the tinned stuff.
If I order steak with mushroom sauce, I expect lots of mushrooms in the sauce, contrary to the lucky find in the watery fluid.
If I go on a date I expect to be treated like a queen and if the vibes are there I expect the best upgrade to a five stars comfort, submissive to el-cheapo bushes yuk, nonono oouch take care of my back will you? I’m an acrobat in training…
I prefer to know what I get surprises are not my theme at all.
I also expect a lot from the people I surround myself with and when they decide to surprise me I simply take a cold shower and move as far as possible.
Expectations
Being a simple person, enjoying; the simple, raw, beautiful things in life it means I am a rebellious kind of person, I expect a lot of the good stuff…
If I buy a salad sandwich I expect fresh salad in it opposite to the tinned stuff.
If I order steak with mushroom sauce, I expect lots of mushrooms in the sauce, contrary to the lucky find in the watery fluid.If I go on a date I expect to be treated like a queen and if the vibes are there I expect the best upgrade to a five stars comfort, submissive to el-cheapo bushes yuk, nonono oouch take care of my back will you? I’m an acrobat in training…
I prefer to know what I get surprises are not my theme at all.
I also expect a lot from the people I surround myself with and when they decide to surprise me I simply take a cold shower and move as far as possible.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Rescue packages can save Australia
Do we want to be rescued?
Right, I still enjoy eating outside to make sure I am contributing to the rescue of our economy…
although I am going out within moderation I still enjoy that sweet service I receive every time I hand out a $20-$50 bill… lovely time.
If only people would be able to relax their minds and think in best ways to go through the recession, panic is the worst enemy during these times.
My best wishes to all affected.
Monday, March 16, 2009
Stuck with an old 57 years old woman
The other day I was told I am an old woman... and it hurt badly... because I am a tomboy and the teller was telling huge figs too because...
Scientists now believe mental abilities decline from age 27
that will teach the teller as his girlfriend is an OLD 29 years old, ooooh she is too tired of life too..
OLD age, scientists now believe, starts when you hit that giddy age of ... 27.
Yes, many well-known effects of ageing may start decades before our twilight years when old age is blamed for misplaced keys and sunglasses, when one forgets a name or an appopintment.
The new research, reports The Mail on Sunday newspaper in the UK, shows that our mental abilities begin to decline from the age of 27 after reaching a peak at 22.
The researchers studied 2,000 men and women aged 18 to 60 over seven years. The people involved, mostly in good health and well-educated, had to solve visual puzzles, recall words and story details and spot patterns in letters and symbols.
Similar tests are often used to diagnose mental disabilities and diseases, such as Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia.
The research at the University of Virginia, reported in the academic journal Neurobiology Of Aging, found that in nine out of 12 tests the average age at which the top performance was achieved was 22.
The first age at which performance was significantly lower than the peak scores was 27 – for three tests of reasoning, speed of thought and spatial visualisation. Memory was shown to decline from the average age of 37. In the other tests, poorer results were shown by the age of 42. (God blesses my senior memory hehehe)
Professor Timothy Salthouse said the results suggested that therapies designed to prevent or reverse age-related conditions may need to start earlier, long before people become pensioners.
Now who do we know who is 27? There's Beyonce Knowles, Adriana Lima, Serena Williams and Guy Sebastian to name but four, who is 29? Thyn Pa Nwe, John Moe is a decrepit at 36, and their troop.... oh let's concentrate on the young ones shall we...
The Daily Telegraph
March 16, 2009 12:00am
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Shoot the Duck
Let's enjoy Duck a la Orange
Enjoy...!To offer friendship to someone is also a gift
Kindness is a gift
but
Taking advantage of friendship and rudeness
are too far from being gifts
But he thinks help is an obligation from the gifter
and when the help stops
he "thought" he was being helped,
he is not sure he was being helped as per his "thought"
He also "thought" friendship was
an obligation towards his goals
As he is not getting his way then
he expects kindness towards him
Meanwhile he mudded one's friendship
wanting to appear "honest" in front
of the eyes of his not so "innocent" friend
as she is not to know the true duck
Has the Duck been kind lately?
Then
Why is his world upside down?
Aim and .....................................
.......................SHOOT THE DUCK
Continue read...Shoot the Duck...
Saturday, March 14, 2009
Possessiveness: once again it is all mine
Lovely isn’t it?
To create that piece of art takes lots of patience and I mean lots in huge bundles as the work is very fiddly. It requires concentration, dedication, and TIME.
Time is one of the most precious tools when creating art. Artists could paint a picture in five minutes as it could take up to years to complete it.
In this case where Julie Roces the designer, a colleague in Philippines delights us with her creativity that it must had taken a considerable numbers of days to develop the above creation. I calculate about 1-2 weeks to complete the pattern during long hours a day and it must had taken about 3-5 days to complete the whitework which is the actual card you are looking at.
Opposite picture of a sample of the actual design for the above card. Julie Roces©2007.
Browsing through my once upon parchment it brought memories to a sting I went through with a pattern of mine, an experience that related to a situation I had to face few days ago.
Long ago I designed a card for Julie’s birthday, it was meant for her, I created the card, posted it and I kept my pattern. A year later browsing one of the craft’s sites another parcher had displayed "my" design created on a card of hers and she was offering my pattern as a free gift as her design. Politely I asked her to remove the pattern as it was not hers but the ones benefiting from the “freebie” made me an ogre and a dispute started.
I fought about my “possession”… "it was mine", at the end it was just a pattern I could had recreated on another application and learn from that experience, “it was mine” , I was attached to that work and part of me was stolen, so I felt. As the years pass by my tools are still waiting to be caressed by my fingers… hmmm maybe one day Julie, maybe one day.
Since I was born I was very independent, and possessive with what it is mine. I only shared with my sister. As I grew older I became possessive with my work.
My work became my signature, my icon, my identity. Nothing wrong with this quite the opposite, I am very proud of my work, very proud of my successes and also I am proud when I step on the mud without invitation because I feel I need to do it.
Being my work I find it difficult to accept that my efforts get thwarted carelessly by the deceitful. I have been in and out of court for intellectual property cases, oooh those copyrights are a very sensitive topic with me. By the way Julie, thanks for the photos.
Being retired it should mean I am not working at all, fortunately work we do since we are born. As babies we sleep and drink, as children we play and study, as adults we work for reward and as elderly we enjoy life the best we can, all these are wrapped up as WORK. Some activities are joyful others bearable and to some we just conform ourselves to do our best.
In the past year through my activism I spent a lot of time helping others, there have been situations where people find themselves without identity, displaced, no place to call home due to their governments, wanting to adapt to new ways and customs.
I took the task of helping some with their challenges to become refugees, reading forms, finding information, where they could go to stay, locating maps and the list goes on, it became a full-time job. It was my WORK as in MINE, although I was committed it was not one of my obligations neither any of my priorities.
Some trusted me, others just had no choice others thought I was their slave to do as I was told at the call of theirs wishes.
It did not matter for a while, but when I found out that my “golden time” was stage-managed then my possessive side flared out claiming ownership for what it was mine and it should had not been jeopardized by their irresponsible and uncontrolled personal matters.
Once more I found myself attached to the idea that work is a vital part of me, I let my temper flare out and the persons that caused the outburst were gifted with the negative side of me.
Now my questions are:
How to detach from possessiveness?
What do I have to do to curve the possessive side of me and learn to let go?
Maybe I need to learn to detach from other’s misery and let them find their own way, we learn as we go in life, we learn on our last breath. Thank you Thomas.
Have a great weekend.
Friday, March 13, 2009
What have I done to be proud of myself today?
Quite interesting question…
I was me all day
I was on receiving mood all day
I needed no nappy change all day
I did not wet the bed either… hooray for that
I did not skid my boxers either
I typed and submitted a post before I left to hospital
I went to hospital for 2nd day treatment
I gave my best blood to Dracula
I was a nice girl under the scanner… not behind the bushes nonono
I looked for information on how to stop a pain that is becoming chronic
I found out that gooood girls girls girls are bad ladies
I wrote a love letter to a friend and posted
I ate curry tonight … not a good idea I should leave that to the lady
And I just got home…
Today has been a great day for me, better than yesterday, although yesterday was good too…
So sad
So sorry
I could not hang my head …
Oh I made another real friend on my way home… lunch tomorrow… tuc tuc
Whatever I do, it is good I do it because it makes me feel good, do I need permission to feel good? naaaaaaah
Think about that. Something is seriously awry when ones self-esteem is so low you cannot feel proud of your own accomplishments without someone else also giving you credit.
Something is not well when you need someone to reassure you exist, when you cannot function as an individual, when you are a dependent then you are not You, you are just someone's echo.
Start by trusting yourself, start by believing in yourself first, start by being honest to yourself first, see for that which makes you happy, once you find it, it will guide you to create more and more...
No one can make us happy if we do not know who we are and what we want.
No one can love us the way we want if wed do not know how to love ourselves first
What do you want now?
Ask and it is given anytime you want it
Everything is possible only if you want it...
More on self trust coming soon...
A Lady's Repute
Behind the bushes, wouldn't be loverly my lady?Who is a lady?
A well-mannered and considerate woman with high standards of proper behavior.
A woman of refinement.
Which qualities make a lady?
A woman regarded as proper and virtuous.
A well-behaved young girl.
A woman who is the head of a household.
A woman, especially when spoken of or to in a polite way.
What is a lady address?
It is a title, in the old days it was given to royalty to designate their social status.
In these modern days it is a "name" given to a woman.
A general feminine title of nobility and other rank, specifically: used as a title to address female royalty.
And also is one of the many names for; Cocaine.
These days females receive this polite addressing, “Ask the lady in purple…”, “See the lady at the end of the corridor”
But I have never heard of, “it was the lady behind the bushes…”.
Then, in these modern times, what is the personal role of the lady?
A lady apart from being a virtuous, well-mannered person is someone who takes care of her environment, her person, her emotions.
A lady takes responsibility for herself, for her body, maintains her principles high at all times.
A lady knows where to go, when and why.
In royal circles ladies were a mix of; kind people and there are well known selfish royals named somewhere in the books.
During my early childhood, ladies were kind, generous people helping and caring for others. "Oh that lady smelled nice", that was because the lady was nice... "she bought me a rag doll"...
Well… I am half way there as I am a tomboy and I love mischief. Knowing well who I am, I make sure I remain within my boundaries in relation to my personal standards. To lower myself for a moment of passion it would mean to effect my life for the rest of my natural existence.
Thievery, abortion, deceit behaviour fit the lower social classes, due to lack of education, due to lack of resources available to improve their lives.
What is the point to follow careers, invest the sacrifices of our parents to send us to become better people if in a low moment of temptation, all those sacrifices go down the drain due to weakness and lack of control on the emotions.
Not only "the lady" in question suffers with misbehaviour, the rest of the family have to put up with the penalties.
Reputation is not a custom, reputation is the standard of qualities of a person, it could be good as it could be appalling.
This is in response to a mistake experienced by people who strongly believe in "ethnic customs".
I have lived in this modern world for many years, I only follow what "my book" dictates, which is my conscience.
Being a prudish is someone else's role. I enjoy my outings, I enjoy male companionship and at all times I keep my head on my shoulders, I make sure I am safe and well protected, my body is my temple and I love enjoying my body for few more decades to come as I love my sanity. Hurting myself and others due to my weakness would be incomprehensible not an alternative.
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Thursday, March 12, 2009
FRIENDSHIP, PURE and ROMANTIC LOVE
Reliable Online Definition
Friend - A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade. A person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty.
friendship - the state of being friends.
Friendly Relationship:
relationship - a state involving mutual dealings between people or parties or countries
companionship, fellowship, society, company - the state of being with someone; "he missed their company"; "he enjoyed the society of his friends"
confidence, trust - a trustful relationship; "he took me into his confidence"; "he betrayed their trust"
Confidence - Trust or faith in a person or thing.
Trust – One in which confidence is placed. To have or place confidence in; or depend on.
OLD FASHIONED FRIENDSHIP
History of the Word Friend
Word History:
A friend is a lover, literally. The relationship between Latin am cus "friend" and am "I love" is clear, as is the relationship between Greek philos "friend" and phile "I love."
In English, though, we have to go back a millennium before we see the verb related to friend. At that time, fr ond, the Old English word for "friend," was simply the present participle of the verb fr on, "to love."
The Germanic root behind this verb is *fr -, which meant "to like, love, be friendly to." Closely linked to these concepts is that of "peace," and in fact Germanic made a noun from this root, *frithu-, meaning exactly that.
Ultimately descended from this noun are the personal names Frederick, "peaceful ruler," and Siegfried, "victory peace." The root also shows up in the name of the Germanic deity Frigg, the goddess of love, who lives on today in the word Friday, "day of Frigg," from an ancient translation of Latin Veneris di s, "day of Venus." ---As per our reliable and best FRIEND the dictionary
I am less familiar with this history I still practice the old fashioned friendship where sex is not invited at all. My belief is that sex could affect the friendly relationship and complicates life. To step from friendship into a loving relationship is a huge risk and a big decision for the ones involved, it is a step where unconditional love falls that makes us confident to establish a long term relationship.
I am one of those persons where intimacy is linked to attachment causing grave emotions and situations. I rather have romping dates, this way I know who is who.
BROADMINDED FRIENDSHIP or FRIENDSHIP WITH BENEFITS
Now this is more the modern “Friendship” I have learned to accept these days. I call it more, “friendship with overtime duties conveniently sided”. I am happy picking up my poncho any time and walking away, I wash my socks when it suits me and I keep my purse to myself, I am still trying to find the meaning of sharing. Oooh how sad…
Maybe one day I am ready to share at the moment I am happy the way my life is.
These days, financially it is the best way to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle by holding to a “friend”. Fortunately I am very independent, this friendship suits me not.
Lack of Self-Esteem, duplicity, enslavement tend to misunderstand friendship. Many times people think that friendship and love, well ‘romantic love’ are the same and many times we see people that they are attached to the lover for the wrong reasons. Eventually they will walk away from each other and their worlds collapse.
Lack of self-esteem blocks them from making friends, true friends. Emotional upbringing makes them dependable seeking for that ‘hand contact’ reassuring them that everything is ok, the world is pinky to them as long that “warm hand” is there but if it is not then their world becomes depressive.
Lust goes with broadminded friendship and it could turn into love as long as the person’s self-esteem is strong to be self. Knowing the freedom to be self and wanting to share with the other person. Knowing they are confident within themselves to fully function on their own as creative individuals.
True Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love. We are in full control of our emotions, when we are ready to share our game we express it with sex therefore, love is action not an emotion.
When we are “in love” as in romantic love, we are so full with the feeling and even from the distance we are capable of filling the other person up with a word, with a graphic smiley, a phone call, a letter. When a person misses a loved one to fall into depression, it only happens because the person lacks the feeling, the feeling is not within the person missing the other.
LUST is just that… PURE Sex… get few drinks and get in the mood and "I do not remember.. it wasn't me" – another post about this topic coming soon.
PURE LOVE or UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
You do not love me anymore you do not write me as you used to,
you do not buy me diamonds anymore,
you do not buy me flowers anymore,
if you love me you would marry me even I don’t love you…
all these are “conditions” to prove love for other person… this type of love carries a measure tape
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
It is just that ‘no conditions’, accepting the person with faults and virtues. This Love is divine, our Creator gifts us with his eternal love, the love of a mother is unconditional for her child.
Even though a person has more faults than virtues, those faults are the essence of his existence and we have no right to force the person to change, we can only guide the person to see if it is convenient to make some changes for the good of the person.
Unconditional love makes us see our faults, it stop us from hurting each other, it makes us take responsibility for our errors, we make the decisions to step into action therefore we take the responsibility for the results.
Unconditional love needs no proof, it needs not display, it feels so warm and the energy to be it makes you wonderful, floating on pink clouds all the time. Everything around you turns up your way when you are full up with unconditional love.
I felt it, but lately I experienced a leak. I must find it and parch it.
Many times we give love to the person who does not want it and it chews our personal energy. It drains us in such a way we need to recharge.
Where there is Love, obstacles melt, opening the way to sharing because love is Bright Light.
AGE IRRELEVANT TO FRIENDSHIP
And back into the Old Fashioned Friendship, where age has no place in deciding who I chose to be friends with.
Through the pass of the years I have built up “true” friendships going back to over 30 years now. These people located all over the world manage to make time to meet me and the rest of the group, but we are from the old school, do modern friends practice this ritual?
People from different ages, backgrounds and status in life, when we meet we look forward our joy to spend that glorious time together by reporting all past’s years happenings, travelling through the memory lane and or sharing future plans. I still attend Christmas parties from jobs I held 30 years ago, the places are non-existing anymore, the people are still there.
Young people from overseas I met online at my early web-beginnings have come to meet me and it was a magnificent exchange, we still keep in contact and amazingly we share a much richer trust. One of the reasons why I keep my domain as that is one of the ways to be located.
People my age have more common interests making it more a social gathering to exchange happy and not so happy times with each other, we are closer to contact.
People in my locality are a mixed age group as well with different views, interests, activities and we all manage to enjoy FRIENDSHIP considering the difference of ages. The FRIENDSHIP is a learning experience for the young ones and for the much older at the same time the fun reigns.
Having a 14 year old coming to tell me “all about her new feelings… oh mum will freak out if she finds out… “ it is sweet as also it is very emotional to have them inviting you for a cuppa to show me some of her masterpieces from art school and giving me hints how to improve my craft… it is a two way road.
A much older in his mid 20s came to find out “how to find out the ‘pattern’ of a person as in unfaithful pattern. The friendship becomes sort of counseling as well as few days ago these young ones were there for me, “dump the ageist” after a past friend manipulated my friendship towards his goals, manipulating my time, my efforts, at periods demanding my skilled support when I faced difficulties to work with him from the distance. My young friends knew how harder I worked to help others and they saw that my efforts were missing appreciation.
Love is there in many ways, we just have to appreciate it and I am blessed to have such a LOVING RAINBOW, I am grateful to all my friendships.
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